Shirley Ann Barber, 88, passed away peacefully on May 13, 2026 in Boston, MA, surrounded by her family. Born to the late Anna (née Donofrio) and Guerino Filigenzi; dedicated wife of 66 years to the late George Barber; devoted mother of Beverly Barber (Kevin Heckler) and the late Bruce (the late Karen) Barber; cherished Grandma of Chloe and the late Payton; beloved sister of Aggie (the late Fred) Day, Rita (Ed) Crawford, and the late John (Marilyn) Filigenzi.

Shirley was a loving wife to George, whom she affectionately described as "persistent and romantic" when they first met in high school. Together, over 66 years of marriage, they built a great life centered on family. Her children and grandchildren were Shirley's greatest joys, and with them she loved taking family vacations; visiting art museums; celebrating the holidays through elaborate baking, cooking, and decorating; playing cards—Shirley was a fierce Pinochle player—and simply talking over a cup of coffee and a shared pastry. She was a trusted confidante with the valued wisdom of an advice columnist, providing support, encouragement, and love.

She treasured the lifelong closeness she shared with her siblings, staying connected through frequent visits, trips together, and daily phone calls. Shirley also felt especially blessed by the close bond she had with her mother. She cherished these relationships and often spoke fondly of the special moments they shared.

Shirley embodied beauty, wisdom, grace, and warmth, and her sparkle and wit were unmistakably "Shirl." One of her favorite sayings, "The show must go on," reflected her determination, strength, and positive spirit. Shirley carried herself with elegance and sophistication—always impeccably put together and never without her lipstick. She often declared red as her happy color, and her favorite flower was the poinsettia—a symbol of joy, celebration, and generosity that truly defined her character.

If red was her signature color, singing was her medium of self-expression. She filled her home with music—jazz vocalists like Ella Fitzgerald and Billie Holiday, the soulful voices of Roberta Flack and Gladys Knight, and songwriters such as Carole King and James Taylor. She listened attentively, sang beautifully and enthusiastically, and found meaning and joy in music. Shirley passed down her love of music to her family through countless moments spent singing together while cooking, around the house, and on car rides.

A gifted cook and gracious hostess, Shirley frequently opened her home and heart to family, friends, and visitors from around the world. She made everyone feel welcome and valued through her delicious meals and with generous hospitality. Her attention to detail never went unnoticed by her guests. Her kids and grandkids always felt especially lucky to head home with containers of her homemade red sauce, a tradition that became one of her many expressions of love.

It is in these countless ways, and in the memories we hold dear, that Shirley stays with us. She is present in the family recipes that will continue to be shared, in her favorite songs that will be sung, in the traditions she cherished, and in her enduring light and wisdom.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital or by offering a Mass Intention in Shirley's name. Her faith was a source of comfort, and she believed in the peace that prayer brings. As you remember Shirley, please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. A private Funeral Mass was held.